Dating As a Demiromantic part 6: Am I Afraid of Love?

Am I demiromantic, or just afraid of love? This is a fair question that I spend several therapy sessions mulling over. It's true that I have a lot of trauma surrounding love and relationships. Those traumas come both from watching my mother's abusive marriage in childhood, and from my own toxic relationships in my teen … Continue reading Dating As a Demiromantic part 6: Am I Afraid of Love? →

Dating as a Demiromantic part 5: managing expectations.

I am a romantic, demi-romantic. On the surface, that statement doesn't make sense. But, the fact is: I love, love. I binge read romantic web comics and books, fawn over sweet animes, and consume rom-coms by the dozen. Far from being afraid or disgusted by romance, I am addicted to it. I just don't experience … Continue reading Dating as a Demiromantic part 5: managing expectations. →

The Kind of Couple We Were

We would be eating pie right now. That's the kind of couple we were. Snipping like grandparents, teasing like kids. Sharing and stealing our slices in turn. That old Village Inn, with its peeling paint and faded sign, Has been replaced by a pizza joint. But that's what memories do- Change. Four years ago we … Continue reading The Kind of Couple We Were →

Dating as a Demiromantic part 3: When Demis Date Other Aces.

If I want my partners to date other people because I only want half a partner, does that make me polyamorous, or the anti-poly? I asked this question on social media and I got some likes and laugh reacts, but no one actually answered my question. The thing was, I was being about 80% serious … Continue reading Dating as a Demiromantic part 3: When Demis Date Other Aces. →

Dating As a Demiromantic part 2: How Do You Know When You Like Someone?

I don't fall in love easily. Love has always been an extremely slow and gradual process for me. I was never one who could easily jump from relationship to relationship, because my heart just wasn't interested. Dating was a fun way to meet new people, but I rarely felt any chemistry or "romance" for anyone … Continue reading Dating As a Demiromantic part 2: How Do You Know When You Like Someone? →