Am I demiromantic, or just afraid of love? This is a fair question that I spend several therapy sessions mulling over. It's true that I have a lot of trauma surrounding love and relationships. Those traumas come both from watching my mother's abusive marriage in childhood, and from my own toxic relationships in my teen … Continue reading Dating As a Demiromantic part 6: Am I Afraid of Love?
I am a romantic, demi-romantic. On the surface, that statement doesn't make sense. But, the fact is: I love, love. I binge read romantic web comics and books, fawn over sweet animes, and consume rom-coms by the dozen. Far from being afraid or disgusted by romance, I am addicted to it. I just don't experience … Continue reading Dating as a Demiromantic part 5: managing expectations.
If I want my partners to date other people because I only want half a partner, does that make me polyamorous, or the anti-poly? I asked this question on social media and I got some likes and laugh reacts, but no one actually answered my question. The thing was, I was being about 80% serious … Continue reading Dating as a Demiromantic part 3: When Demis Date Other Aces.
I don't fall in love easily. Love has always been an extremely slow and gradual process for me. I was never one who could easily jump from relationship to relationship, because my heart just wasn't interested. Dating was a fun way to meet new people, but I rarely felt any chemistry or "romance" for anyone … Continue reading Dating As a Demiromantic part 2: How Do You Know When You Like Someone?
I recently discovered that I am a demiromantic. This was a mind blowing discovery, as I didn't know there was a word for the way I experience attraction. After my last break-up I found that I was having a difficult time feeling romantic attraction towards people. Everything would be fine on paper, but I just … Continue reading Dating as a Demiromantic